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The Story of “Hospital Window”

Hi Singapore Parents 

I have heard this story many times.  Whenever I am down, I would recall the lesson drawn from it.

 

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.
 
One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window.
 
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. 
Although the other man couldn’t hear the band - he could see it. In his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.  She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.  Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.  If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

So parents, do share the story with your loved ones. 

Remedies the Natural Way

Hi Singapore Parents
Below are some interesting food for thought remedies using fluids, food, fruits and vegetables.

USING FLUIDS

      

BLADDER INFECTION?  DRINK CRANBERRY JUICE!!!!  High-acid cranberry juice controls harmful bacteria.

INSOMNIA (CAN’T SLEEP?)  HONEY!  Use honey as a tranquilizer and sedative.

TO PREVENT STROKE - DRINK TEA!  Prevent buildup of fatty deposits on artery walls with regular doses of tea.  (Actually, tea suppresses appetite and keeps the pounds from invading. Green tea is great for our immune system!)

HAY FEVER?  EAT YOGURT!  Eat lots of yogurt before pollen season.  Honey also helps for this ailment. 

USING FOOD

 

      


PREMENSTRUAL SYNDROME?  EAT CORNFLAKES!!!!  Women can ward off the effects of PMS with cornflakes, which help reduce depression, anxiety and fatigue.

ARTHRITIS?  EAT FISH!  Salmon, tuna, mackerel and sardines actually prevent arthritis(Fish has omega oils, good for our immune system.)

HEADACHE?  EAT FISH!  Fish oil helps prevent headaches.  So does ginger which reduces inflammation and pain.

MEMORY PROBLEMS?  EAT OYSTERS!  Oysters help improve your mental functioning by supplying much-needed zinc.
 

USING FRUITS

 

APPLE - although an apple has a low Vitamin C content, it has antioxidants and flavonoids which enhances the activity of Vitamin C.  It thereby helps to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack and stroke.  As the saying goes “An apple a day keeps the doctor away!”

DIARRHEA?  EAT APPLES!  Grate an apple with its skin let it turn brown.  Then eat it to cure this condition.  (Bananas are also good for this ailment)

CLOGGED ARTERIES? EAT AVOCADO!   Mono unsaturated fat in avocados lowers cholesterol.
UPSET STOMACH?   BANANAS - They will settle an upset stomach.

BLUEBERRIES – high in anti-oxidants.  They are the best and very versatile in the health field as they get rid of all the free-radicals that invade our bodies.   (Actually, any berry is good for you as they’re high in anti-oxidants.  They actually keep us young.)                         

GUAVA - top award for Vitamin C. It is also rich in fiber which helps prevent constipation

KIWI - tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, Vitamin E and fiber. Its Vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.

ORANGE -  sweetest medicine. By taking 2 - 4 oranges a day, it may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent/dissolve kidney stones and lessen the risk of colon cancer.

PAPAYA (like guava) - is top awards for Vitamin C.  It is also rich in carotene and this is good for your eyes.  In addition, It aids in indigestion gas release.

BONE PROBLEMS?  EAT PINEAPPLE!!!  Bone fractures and osteoporosis can be prevented by the manganese in pineapple.

STRAWBERRY -  protective fruit. It has the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits and protects the body from cancer causing, blood vessels clogging free radicals.

TOMATOES are very good as a preventative measure for men.  They keep prostate problems from invading their bodies.

WATERMELON -  coolest Thirst Quencher composed of 92% water. It is packed with a giant dose of glutathione which helps boost our immune system. It is also a key source of lycopene - the cancer fighting oxidant.  Other nutrients found in watermelon are Vitamin C & potassium. It also has natural substances that keep our skin healthy, protecting our skin from those ultra violet rays.


USING VEGETABLES

 

BREAST CANCER?  EAT Wheat, bran and cabbage.  They help to maintain estrogen at healthy levels.  

BLOOD SUGAR IMBALANCE?  EAT BROCCOLI AND PEANUTS!!!  The chromium in broccoli and peanuts helps regulate insulin and blood sugar.

ULCERS?  EAT CABBAGE!!!   It contains chemicals that help heal both gastric and duodenal ulcers.

HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE?  EAT CELERY AND OLIVE OIL!!!  Olive oil has been shown to lower blood pressure. Celery contains a chemical that lowers pressure too.

COLDS?  EAT GARLIC!  Clear up that stuffy head with garlic.  Remember, garlic also lowers cholesterol.  

HEADACHE?  EAT GINGER!  Ginger reduces inflammation and pain.

UPSET STOMACH?  EAT GINGER!  Ginger will cure morning sickness and nausea.

LUNG CANCER?  EAT DARK GREEN AND ORANGE VEGGIES!!!  A good antidote is beta carotene, a form of Vitamin A found in dark green and orange vegetables.

ASTHMA?  EAT ONIONS!!!!  Eating onions helps ease constriction of bronchial tubes.(As a traditional remedy, try putting onion packs on the chest. It would help the respiratory ailments and actually made breathing easier.)

COUGHING?  USE RED PEPPERS!  A substance similar to that found in the cough syrups is found in hot red pepper.  Use red (cayenne) pepper with caution - it can irritate your tummy.

 

So parents, do try out the above tips the natural way and skip the pills.

 

Saving Money by Cooking at Home

Hi Singapore Parents

Eating out often can zap your budget in times of economic crisis.  Also, busy schedules make it difficult to find the time to cook healthy, tasty, and economical home-cooked meals.

Below are some suggestions that can help tighten your belt:

  • Cook in bulk.  When you make chili, make enough for three meals.  Eat one tonight and pack the extras in labeled freezer bags.  You now have two meals ready to go in just minutes for those nights when you’re in a hurry.  Just pop the freezer bag in the microwave or pour the thawed chili into a pan on the stove top.  Toss together a green salad and dinner is served.

    For additional savings, plan your bulk-cooking sessions around the supermarket’s sales.

  • Use a slow cooker.  A slow cooker (shown in this figure)  is both convenient and a money saver.  When you come home at dinnertime, the food is already done.  This eliminates the temptation to run out for something quick (and more expensive). Slow cookers can save you money in other ways:

    • You can cook larger meals, providing leftovers and possibly a second meal from one cooking time.
    • You can buy tougher (and less expensive) cuts of meat because the slow cooker acts as a tenderizer.
    • Meat shrinks less when cooked in the slow cooker and does not dry out.

    • A slow cooker uses less electricity than an oven.  It also does not heat up the kitchen nearly as much as the stove top or oven.  So it is a perfect hot-weather cooking appliance.

    • Tofu, an inexpensive meat substitute, tastes better cooked in a slow cooker because it has time to soak up the flavors of the broth, spices, and other ingredients.

    • Besides stews, slow cookers can also broil soups.  There are just too many things you can do with slow cookers.  Vary the ingredients and the whole family can enjoy different meals all the time.  The library is a good source to borrow books on food preparation for slow cookers.  Even children can be involved and help in the cooking.  Make it a family affair where everyone can take turns to prepare his or her speciality for their loved ones.

  • Go green and eat more vegetables.  Not only are vegetables healthy for the family, they are also rich in vitamins.  You will be amazed by the varieties and different colours you can mix and match to make your meals appetizing.  Pop lesser pills and go the natural way.

Well parents, happy saving money and cooking at home.

Lessons learnt daily


Hi

Singapore parents

 Below extract was written by Andy Rooney who has the gift of saying so much with so few words.  Enjoy…

 

       

 

“I’ve learned that:

  • the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
  • when you’re in love, it shows.

  • just one person saying to me, “You’ve made my day!” makes my day.

  • having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
     

  • being kind is more important than being right.
     

  • you should never say no to a gift from a child.
     

  • I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.

  • no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with. (right on!)
     
  • sometimes, all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
     
  • simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
     
  • life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
     
  • we should be glad God doesn’t give us everything we ask for.
     
  • money doesn’t buy class.
     
  • it’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
     
  • under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
     
  • to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
     
  • when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
     
  • love, not time, heals all wounds.
     
  • the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
     
  • everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
     
  • no one is perfect until you fall in love with them. (So true!)
     
  • life is tough, but I’m tougher.
     
  • opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
     
  • when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
     
  • I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.
     
  • one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
     
  • a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
     
  • I can’t choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.
     
  • when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you’re hooked for life.
     
  • everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.
     
  • the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

So parents, hope you have enjoyed the above tips on lessons learnt daily.

Recipe for Mycofarm Mushrooms

Hi Singapore Parents

Today, will share one mushroom recipe with you.

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This is for one pack of 150 gm Mycofarm mushrooms:

  1. Slice fresh mushrooms, if desire.  Else leave it as a whole.
  2. Heat up 2 tablespoons of oil in a pan.
  3. Add 10 grams of chopped garlic and fry till golden brown (If vegetarian, can omit this).  For chilli lovers, can add in shreds of chillies to your liking.
  4. Add mushrooms and stir fry for 1 minute.
  5. Add 1 teaspoon of oyster sauce, 1 teaspoon of sesame oil and while pepper.  Stir fry for another 3 minutes or until mushrooms are soft.  Can also consider other sauces if oyster sauce is not desired.
  6. For wine lovers, stir in 1 tablespoon of Chinese wine and serve immediately while hot.

So parents, try out this simple, tasty and healthy dish.

When you are 102 . . .

Dear Singapore Parents

George Carlin is 102 years old and below are his views on ageing:

Do you realise that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we’re kids? If you’re less than 10 years old, you’re so excited about ageing that you think in fractions.

‘How old are you?’ I’m four and a half!’ You’re never thirty-six and a half. You’re four and a half, going on five! That’s the key

You get into your teens, now they can’t hold you back. You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.

‘How old are you?’ ‘I’m gonna be 16!’ You could be 13, but hey, you’re gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life …. . You become 21. Even the words sound like a ceremony. YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!!

But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There’s no fun now, you’re Just a sour-dumpling. What’s wrong? What’s changed?

You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you’re PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it’s all slipping away. Before you know it, you REACH 50 and your dreams are gone.

But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn’t think you would!

So you BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60.

You’ve built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it’s a day-by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!

You get into your 80’s and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30 ; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn’t end there Into the 90s, you start going backwards; ‘I Was JUST 92.’

Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again. ‘I’m 100 and a half!’


May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!

HOW TO STAY YOUNG

1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay ‘them’

2.. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. ‘An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.’ And the devil’s name is Alzheimer’s.

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5.. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen.. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves.. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don’t take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but  by the moments that take our breath away.

So Singapore parents, hope you find the above tips useful and enlightening.

Instant Noodle Alert

Hi Singapore parents

Would like to share with you the right way to cook instant noodles without harming our bodies and health.

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Normally, we would put the instant noodles into a pot of water, add in the seasoned powder and let it cook for around 3 minutes.   By doing this, we actually boil the ingredients in the powder, normally with MSG.  It will then change the molecule structures  and cause the MSG to be toxic.

Also the noodles are coated with wax and it will take around 4 to 5 days for the body to excrete the wax after consumption.

Here is the recommended way to do it:

1.  Boil the noodles in a pot with water.
2.  Once the noodles are cooked, drain and throw away the water which contains wax.
3.  Boil another pot of water and put the noodles into the hot boiling water and then shut the fire.
4.  Only at this stage when the fire is off, add in the seasoned powder to make noodle soup.
5.  If dry noodles are desired, take out the noodles, add the seasoned powder and toss it to get dry noodles.

For plain noodles without the seasoning, you may also need to boil in water and discard the water. This will soften the noodles.  To prevent it from sticking, you can add a teaspoon of oil or run it under cold water.

A large number of people aged 18-24 years are getting pancreatitis either as a swelling or infection of the pancreas.  One of the reasons was due to regular consumption of instant noodles.  If the frequency is more than 3 times a week, it can be hazardous . . .

So parents, hope you find the above tips useful and be mindful when cooking instant noodles for your family.

A Story about Choices . . .

Hi

Singapore Parents

Today, would like to share a story about Shay . . . 

At a fund-raising dinner for a school that serves learning disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended.. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: “When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?”
The audience was stilled by the query.
 

The father continued. “I believe that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.”
Then he told the following story:

 

  

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, “Do you think they’ll let me play?” Shay’s father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay’s father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, “We’re losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.”

Shay struggled over to the team’s bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father’s joy at his son being accepted.. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay’s team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay’s life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.  

The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.  

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman’s head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, “Shay, run to first! Run to first!” Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, “Run to second, run to second!” Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball … the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher’s intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman’s head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, “Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay”

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, “Run to third! Shay, run to third!”

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, “Shay, run home! Run home!” Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grandslam slam and won the game for his team.

“That day,” said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, “the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world.”

Shay didn’t make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

So parents, would you have made the same choice??? A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats its least fortunate amongst them. 

May your day be a Shay Day!!

The goodness of Coconut water

Hi Singapore Parents

Do you know that coconut water contains organic compounds possessing healthy growth promoting properties that can help:

  • Keep the body cool and at the proper temperature
  • Orally re-hydrate your body, it is an all natural isotonic beverage
  • Carry nutrients and oxygen to cells
  • Naturally replenish your body’s fluids after exercising
  • Raise your metabolism
  • Promote weight loss
  • Boost your immune system
  • Detoxify and fight viruses
  • Cleanse your digestive tract
  • Control diabetes
  • Aid your body in fighting viruses that cause the flu, herpes, and AIDS
  • Balance your PH and reduce risk of cancer
  • Treat kidney and urethral stones
  • Boost poor circulation

   

Coconut water is naturally low in carbohydrates,  99% fat free and low in sugars.  Contrary to traditional belief, coconut water is:

  • more nutritious that whole milk - less fat and no cholesterol
  • more healthy than orange juice - much lower calories
  • better than processed baby milk - it contains lauric acid which is present in human mother’s milk
  • naturally sterile - water permeates though the filtering husk
  • a universal donor - it is identical to human blood plasma
  • a natural isotonic beverage - the same level we have in our blood

Based on a 100 ml drink, coconut water:

  • contains more potassium (about 294 mg) than most sports drinks (117 mg) and most energy drinks
  • has less sodium (25 mg) where sports drinks have around 41 mg and energy drinks about 200 mg
  • has 5 mg of natural sugars where sports and energy drinks range from 10 - 25 mg of altered sugars
  • is very high in chloride at 118 mg, compared to sports drinks at about 39 mg

So parents, do consider coconut water as a regular booster than the usual sports or energy drinks.

BRA knowledge

Hi Singapore mothers 

Do you wear bra for the whole day and even at home?  If you do, please read this article.

 

Study has shown that when a woman wears a tight bra: 

v    She subjects her breasts to pressure;v    The lymphatic pathway is closed from the breast to the node;v    This causes fluid built-up swelling, tenderness and cyst formation;v    It prevents toxins to be flushed out via the lymphatic;v    It cannot adequately perform this cleansing process, resulting in toxin accumulation in the breast.

The truth is bras create droopy, weak breasts - the breast relies on the bras for artificial support; the body loses its ability to support the breast by itself.  This is why many women feel uncomfortable without the bra.

For breast cancer patients, it had been found that virtually all of them wore bras over 12 hours.
          
So what is the solution to breast cancer then?  STOP WEARING A TIGHT BRA!  It would be good to sleep without them.

There is a remarkable success rate for recovery from fibrocystic breast disease within 10 days to two weeks of going bra-free.  Many women have tried going bra-less and recorded a miraculous improvement in their health!   

Bra burning is no longer a feminist issue.  It is now a battle between life and death for some. We should make others more aware of the hazards of wearing them. 

So mothers, do share the above tips with your daughters.