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Monthly Reflections 0707

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 It’s another month-end.  For this month, my achievements are:

  • Gave talks to Pri 6 students from 4/7 - 6/7 on Time Management and Motivation Study/Skill.
  • Attended monthly gathering at YMCA on 6/7 for The Society of Singapore Writers. 
  • Finally officially launched my :juneparenting.com” website on 07/07/07.
  • Gave a talk on “How to talk so that your child listens” on 14/7 at Blossom Monte Creative Centre.  Good turn out of about 50 parents.  The principal was overwhelmed by the response.  Will be contacting her again for more future talks.
  • Finally managed to clear all the plastic bags piling in my room.  What a relief!
  • Attended my eldest girl, Yulin’s graduation at NTU on 25/07/07.  Was glad she found a job and started work on 23/07/07.
  • Did facilitation at Anderson Pri Sch on 26/07/07.
  • Attended Parent-Guardian meeting at Cedar Girls’ Sec Sch.  All parents present were so enthusiastic and gave a lot of suggestions on how to get more parents to join the scheme.
  • Got my sister, husband and my third daughter, Yu Mei, to attend the Reiki Reunion on 29/07/07.  The venue was at SWCO at Waterloo Street.
  • Gave 2 assembly talks on “Internet Safety” to Ngee Ann Pri Sch students (P3-P6 and P1-P2). 

Tasks to be done in Aug 2007:

  • Get my mum to attend handycraft session at WINGS.
  • Attend monthly gathering at YMCA on 3/8 for The Society of Singapore Writers.
  • Complete the 15 sessions of One-On-One presentation class. Last lesson ending on 8/8.
  • Resume monthly Reiki session on 11/08/07.
  • Give talks on “Time Management” and “Being Responsible” on 13/8 at Ngee Ann Pri Sch.
  • Organize a gathering for participants of GAB WINGS on 23/08/07 at my house. 

Posted on July 31st, 2007 by June
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Computer Addiction

   

Hi

Singapore Parents

Today, will share with you on warning signs of computer addition.In this present computer age, both adults and children are faced with “dangers”.  Besides   searching for information and doing online projects, they are also exposed to:

  • Gaming
  • Blogging
  • Pornography
  • Infringement of copyrights for downloading or movies/songs/others

Warning signs of computer addiction:

  1. Do you often find yourself staying online longer than intended?
  2. Do you often neglect school work or other social activities to spend more time online?
  3. Do you often form new relationships with fellow online users?
  4. Do your family members often complain to you about the amount of time you are spending online?
  5. Has your academic performance suffer because of the Internet activities?
  6. Do you become defensive or secretive when anyone ask you what you do online?
  7. Do you often block out disturbing thoughts about your life with soothing thoughts of the Internet?
  8. Do you often anticipate when you will go online again?
  9. Do you often fear that life without the Internet would be boring, empty, colourless and joyless?
  10. Do you often snap, yell or act annoyed if someone bothers you when you are online?
  11. Do you often feel preoccupied with the Internet when offline or fantasize about being online? Depressed, moody and nervous when offline?
  12. Do you often say “just a few more minutes” when online?
  13. Do you often try to cut down the amount of time spent online and fail?
  14. Do you often try to hide how long you have been online?
  15. Do you often choose to spend more time online than going out with others?

If you answer to above questions is more than 8, then you or your children are definitely addicted to the computer. n

Consequences of Addiction 

  • It will destroy the family relationship, especially with loved ones
  • It makes one lose touch with reality, that is where to draw the boundary line between virtual world and reality.
  • It brings unhappiness - a thrill that NEVER satisfies you enough
  • It has negative consequences, that is you reap what you sow.  Example, by neglecting your studies, you would expect only poor results.
  • This will definitely destroy your future, goals and plans.  It is a high price to pay.

 Practical strategies to prevent or counter computer addiction

  • Keep the computer in a place accessible to all
  • Agree to a time limit for computer use outside school/work hours
  • Deploy quality time away from the computer - pursue common interests/hobbies and sports with friends and relatives

So Singapore parents, hope you find the above tips useful.  If you suspect your child or spouse is inclined to computer addiction, ACT NOW before it is too late.

Posted on July 30th, 2007 by June
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LISTEN Techniques

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Today, would like to share with Singapore parents on LISTEN techniques:

Lead by example

This refers to parents should say what they mean.  More often than not, children imitate their parents a lot.  If parents say one thing and do another, the child will be confused.  Then, how do you expect them to listen to you?? 

Instill right values

This refers to values like respect, mannerism and simple social ethics.  Again, children mirror how parents deal with other people.  By instilling the right values from young, children will be more willing to listen to you. 

Story-telling

All children love story telling.  Through story telling, parents can teach them moral values.  This is one good and fun way to get their attention to listen to you.  While they enjoy the story, parents can also get their message across. 

Talk in positive tone

Very often, parents will tell their children: “Don’t do this” or “You should not do that”.  How about using the positive tone like:  “It would be nice if you can . . . “ or “Mummy or daddy would happy if you can. . .”  Alternatively, using the questions to draw positive reply: “Wouldn’t it be great if you can . . .?” or “It would be fantastic if you can . . ., isn’t it right?”  

Exert authority

There will be times when the child simply refuses to listen or throw tantrum.  Then, that’s where parents can exert their authority.  However, do talk to him when he has quiet down,  If need be, explain the reason for your action. 

Note good behaviour

When your child does something good, do acknowledge and give praise.  Then, he will be encouraged to repeat the same behaviour.  Sometimes, action speaks louder – give him a pat or reward with gift if occasion merits it.

Posted on July 13th, 2007 by June
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Delights and Woes of the Week 0726

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This is Week 26 of the year.  It means there are another 26 more to go before end of 2007.

Well, the most delightful event this week was attending the Reiki session with my husband, 2nd sister and a colleague.  It was at Le Meridien Orchard.

Besides the regulars, I also get to meet new participants.  This bunch is rather quiet but with lots of questions to ask.  Master Kevin was ever so pleasing to answer any concerns and doubts.  As usual, she was full of energy during the 2 and half days.

For me, every review serves as a new beginning.  Hope this is also the same for my husband and sister.  Both still seem receptive towards the end of the session.  I sincerely wish them the best in self-discovery and in improving their own well being.

The next delight is that the maid finally came for my mum on 29/6 Saturday.  I have yet to see her.  Will do so tomorrow. 

For the woe, I miss my own target by 1 enrolment for June, having only 9.  Must really try harder this month.

Posted on July 1st, 2007 by June
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Monthly Reflections 0706

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Today is the last day of June.  It also means half the year is gone with the closing of today. How time flies?

For this month, my achievements are:

  • Had my first public talk on parenting tips on 9/6/07.  The title is “Family Bonding through Fun and Fitness”.  The venue was at StarDus Clubhouse at River Valley Road.  There was turn out of about 30 comprising teenagers and parents.
  • Did facilitation on 12/6 and 19/6 for talks by Jason and Jolly. 
  • Assisted a friend on “Creative Writing” workshop for students from Pri 1 - Pri 3 on 18/6.  Sure was happy to see how these children were able to made up new stories, through imagination.
  • Completed the 6 sessions on WINGS’ Guided Autobiography.  Glad to have made some new friends.  They are just fantastic women, aging gracefully in their own ways.
  • Got 9 enrolments for MindChamps programmes.  My target is still to get 10 a month.  Must persevere to achieve this goal.
  • Still doing my Reiki - this month more focus on  myself and a few family members.

    • Tasks to be done in July 2007:

  • Give talks to Pri 6 students from 4/7 - 6/7 on Time Management and Motivation Study/Skill.
  • Attend monthly gathering at YMCA on 6/7 for The Society of Singapore Writers.
  • Attend 13 sessions of One-On-One presentation class.  Last lesson ending on 2/8.
  • Give a talk on “How to talk so that your child listens” on 14/7 at Blossom Monte Creative Centre.
  • To file of documents that are accumulating.
  • To clear the plastic bags still piling in my room.

    • Posted on June 30th, 2007 by June
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    Delights and Woes of the Week 0725

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    Another busy week.  First, the delights:

    • on 18/6 Monday, helped in giving talk to Pri 1 to Pri 3 on Creative Writing at NUSS Guild House.  It was a one-day workshop full of activities for the children.  There was story-telling, continuation of the story and writing their own story.  Majority enjoyed the session except one boy named Justin.
    • On 19/6 Tuesday, did facilitation at GSK again, this time at Pioneer Road.  More pariticipation with home-made snacks which the audience enjoyed.
    • On 20/6, was at mum’s place from 11 am - 6 pm.  Thereafter, proceeded to Toa Payoh for the One-on-One presentation course.  Tiring day but enriching.
    • On 21/6, was at Bishan again on WINGS autobiography session.  The topic was on coping death.  It was a heavy subject but all were willing to share.
    • On 23/6, it was BBQ time at Trellis Tower for the scholars of Cedar Girls Secondary School.  More than 100 people turned up in support of the event.  Many parents chipped in with home-cooked food.  4 of us were there for Li Jing, my adopted scholar.
    • This week, 2 more enrolments.  That means, another 2 more to make 10.  I am still hopeful.

    So far, no woes this week.  Hurray!

    Posted on June 24th, 2007 by June
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    Delights and Woes of the Week 0724

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    This is a busy week for me.  First the delights:

    • On 11/6 Monday, had lunch with another ex-colleague at Cafe Cartel at City Hall.  The food is just moderate.  Ambience is quite good though,
    • On 12/6 afternoon, was a facilitator at GSK Quality outlet for a talk on “Keep Your Relationship Going Hot”.  The turn out was 30 people.
    • On 13/6, kept mum company and even stayed overnight while my sister was on assignment.
    • On 14/6 afternoon, went to Bishan for the WINGS’ autobiography session.  Pleased to share with the regulars on the topic of health.
    • For the weekend, was at Toa Payoh receiving guests for the complimentary workshop.  Did also the duty of a child minder assistant.  Rather fun meeting the little ones and cheering them up.

    For the woe, although quite a number of families turned up, none enrolled this week.  Two of them wanted to re-consider before commiting.  Will have to follow up . . .

    Posted on June 17th, 2007 by June
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    Delights and Woes of the Week 0723

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    This week, I had better luck on the enrolments.  To date, already 6.  My target is 10 every month.  With another 2 more weeks to go, the chances are very high.

    The  next delight is on 9/6 where I finally got to speak to the public.  The topic was “Family Bonding Through Fun and Fitness”.  The venue is at StarDus Clubhouse, River Valley Road.  An audience of about 30 turned up.  Though it was only an hour talk, I was able to share with the teenagers and parents on:

    • The growing stages
    • Family culture
    • Questions children ask
    • Family love affair

    From the evaluation forms collected, I have quite good ratings.  This is a good start and I look forward to more of these assignments.  Was glad that my little girl and my eldest brother was there to give me moral support.

    For the woe, we are still waiting for the replacement maid to come in.  For days that we could not keep our mum company, she is left alone. 

    Posted on June 10th, 2007 by June
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    Delights and Woes of the Week 0722

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    This week, I have more woes than delight.  My mood is very much affected by my dad’s 1st death anniversary on 31/5.  All members of the family were at the Toa Payoh temple to pay our respects.  I still miss him terribly . . .

    Also, a client of mine wanted full refund after enrolment.  After much discussion, she finally agreed to proceed with the program.  Was glad I could apply some of the Education Success Coaching strategies during the process.  Questions such as how and what were asked instead of whys.

    The only delight this week is on 1/6 when I attended the monthly gathering at YMCA for The Society of Singapore Writers.  One of the members shared her book on the life of a professor who lived like a gypsy.  She had improved the lifes of these people by providing education and other cultural aspects.  It’s really amazing how she is willing to sacrifice her life to do this as a mission. 

    Posted on June 3rd, 2007 by June
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    Monthly Reflections 0705

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    Today is Vesak Day and also my dad’s 1st death anniversary. How time flies? It has been one year since he left us. We still miss him.

    For this month, my achievements are:

  • Attended refresher course on SEO Web Design.
  • Wrote article on “Family Culture” and submit to Society of Singapore Writers for their year book publication.
  • Passed the written exam on Education Success Coach, after the 2 attempt.
  • Completed the 1 week practical course on Education Success Coach (waiting for the result of the practical exam).
  • Was at Temasek JC to give talks on Family Bonding.
  • Managed to upload all existing posts from this blog site to my new web site.
  • Did Reiki on a number of people in need and glad to see that their conditions did improve.
  • Managed to enrol only 3 students for the self-improvements courses.
  • Attended Cedar Girls’ Sec Sch 50th Anniversary Dinner on 19/5.
  • Borrowed 2 books from the library for my parenting workshop reference.
  • Had 1 facial treatment done.
  • Had dinner with 2 good friends whom I not met for some time.
  • Attended course by WINGS on writing my biography. Intend to have the article published when I complete it.

    • Tasks to be done in June 2007:

  • Go for roadshow at Dhoby Ghaut MRT on 1/6 and 4/6.
  • Give a talk on “Family Bonding thru fun and fitness” on 9/6 at StarDus Clubhouse.
  • Be facilitator on 12/6 and 19/6 for talk by Jason and Jolly.
  • Assist Maurice on SSW talk on 18/6.
  • Attend course by WINGS on every Thursday afternoon from 2 - 4 pm.
  • Attend Reiki workshop on 29/6 and 30/6 (have enrolled my husband and sister for this session).
  • Must find time to clear the plastic bags still piling in my room.
  • Get my sister to help me call leads that are coming in from several people.

    • Posted on May 31st, 2007 by June
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